We're doing good :)

K is doing great.

He talks about his Mom just about everyday.  He really misses her.  Being away from your Mom must stink.  Especially when your four and you don't have a clue about what is happening.  We do our best to explain what foster care is to him, but he's four, and my guess is it makes no sense.

Despite that, he is a happy guy.  I thought about it today, and his little temper tantrums have just about stopped.  He is expressing his opinion, and gets mad and loud a few times a day, but it's a more 'normal' kind of behavior.

A quick story..............
The other day I asked K if he wanted to drive Will to work with me, or if he wanted to stay home.  He was thinking about it, and taking his sweet time answering, so I asked again, "Do you want to drive Will to work, or stay home?".  He said, "I'd like to drive Will to work, but which way do I turn?".

K has added some sunshine into our home.  He's giggly and silly, and some things are just more fun with a little guy around.  Steve, Nathan and K made an angry bird pumpkin....carving pumpkins is more fun when someone is squealing about squishy seeds.

So, we move ahead day by day, loving a little guy who will only be with us for a while.  Investing in someone who will most likely only have a fuzzy recollection of living with us.

K will either go home and live with his Mom, or he'll become a 'crown ward' and the CAS will look for a permanent home for him.  Those decisions have nothing to do with me.  How that plays out depends on his Mom, and it depends on the CAS, and it depends on a judge.  We aren't a long term option for K as we're already adopting, but we are his 'now'.

My job is the same regardless of the outcome.  To make sure that he feels as safe as possible, to help him make sense of his feelings and what's going on, to make sure he doesn't think this is his fault.  And to give him a hug and sing him a lullaby every night on his way to bed.